Fearless Friday: Surviving Small Talk + A Crazy Social Calendar
You're either a people person or you're not. And if you're not, social situations can leave you squeamish and all together uncomfortable. I see it all the time in creative types...brilliant in their own right but would prefer to stay in with a glass of wine and their computer vs. donning their best party dress and making small talk. Ironically, my husband is not a creative but loathes social situations. Luckily, I carry the weight for both of us! By the time he's on his second beer, I've scheduled a playdate and a double dinner date with said new couple!
Love it or hate it...some of us are chatter boxes and thrive on social interaction. But what about the rest of you? Today I'm sharing 7 conversation starters to help ease the nerves and solicit lively conversation no matter what type of event you're attending.
Oh and beware: do NOT ask someone what they do for a living? It's a pretty aggressive opener and one that I personally loathe!
- Ok, I'm having a Netflix night with my (spouse)...what's on your TV shortlist?
- Visited any new restaurants that I need to check out? We recently went to...
- I love your (compliment an aspect of their outfit) DRESS! I really need more leopard in my wardrobe...where did you snag it?
- How did you meet (hostess name)? We met at XYZ event!
- Where do you live? (once answer is solicited, talk about a landmark in their city, a restaurant for example, that you love) *easy icebreaker
- Any vacations planned?
- What are your plans for the holidays? We stay in Chicago... *another easy lay up!
Small talk doesn't have to be forced. I love getting to know people and finding out what they love, dislike and eventually what they do. The whole process of getting dressed up and mingling is something I thoroughly enjoy. Like I always say...when in doubt - have a cocktail and have fun with it!
Let’s talk travel necessities. I never cared much about my luggage before. After all, it’s thrown around every which way north of Sunday. If it zipped and didn’t way over 50lbs, we were in business. That all changed when Nasaden reached out to me. Talk about sleek, gender neutral luggage accessories that were just as fashionable as I aim to be each and every day.
It’s been a full circle week. What looked like a normal week of kids, work and typical weekly balance challenges took a complete nose dive as of Sunday night. The universe is mysterious but like any hard life event, I learned a little about myself and a lot about my tribe. It was the catalyst for this post as I was so moved by the kind actions and notes people shared with me.
You know, 2018 was a great year for so many reasons. It really was. I cannot complain. Sure, there were some disappointments but turning 40 was the highlight. With a stronger sense of self, my tolerance and my priorities…I was able to brush off the things that take up precious headspace and I look forward to more of that in 2019. Getting old can be liberating!
Here are my thoughts on the past 365 days...
In the blogging community, FOMO is a real thing. This topic is especially poignant given that it's NYFW. And for what it's worth, I've attended several times and I am totally okay with not being there this year. It's not all glitz and glam...it's a lot of schlepping, sweating, missed cabs, foot pain and hunger. Would I go again? For sure. Am I okay with missing a few? Most definitely! But, I digress...
Anastasia Lupu is indeed the triple threat but the most striking feature about her is how incredibly kind and down-to-earth she is. Once you get over her supermodel looks, you realize just how whip smart she is and the likability factor goes wayyyy up.
She's a momma, a badass babe, a beauty and a business woman. Her floral company speaks to me and it's incredibly unique and custom which are two of my favorite things. The tagline: Boxed Flowers For The Well-Heeled. Where my stiletto-wearin' babes at? This one's for you!
Brittany is a trailblazer when it comes to online fashion. Don't take it from me though. She just received her 800th 5-star review on Poshmark, That's right ladies, she has built a business on selling yours and my clothing and accessories on one of the largest fashion marketplaces in existence and boy, she has a system! I've mentioned her on my Instagram before but she has literally changed my life overnight as I've been purging and cleansing my closet all summer. Interested? Read on!
All for one and one for all! In case you didn't know...there is a huge movement to band entrepreneurs together in new and exciting work environments that foster creativity, support and a giant networking pool to feed off of. Finding the right one is the tricky part of it all.
Well, look no further. Today's interviewee has launched an incredibly cool workspace geared towards females and she's showing no signs of slowing down.
People always ask me where my office is located and my response is usually: EVERYWHERE. My team is never stationary and that's really the fun of what we do. Meetings, shoots, calls, TV segments, seminars...we do it all and all in the name of social media!
I have had my fair share of struggles with confidence. I can't blame it on a singular incident or my upbringing because I had an amazing childhood. It's just who I am. I think a lot of us struggle with being confident whether it's at work, with friends, our body image, parenting or even meeting new people. In fact, I would go so far as to say that it's in our female DNA. Never mind celebrities and postpartum mommas who are back down to their fighting weight in a matter of seconds. It's no wonder!